It is the name of a famous book, and the thing that comes in my mind recently. We meet many people and handle numerous things. Particularly, as someone's experience, expertise, and influence grows in their own field, we encounter various decision calls as we need to lead people.
Unfortunate but obvious truth in human resource management is that we cannot be friend of everybody. I meet and work with a lot of people as I am playing in interdisciplinary field and I am getting more and more busy to do many things all myself. Unlike sol0-play in early years, this increasing managerial role occasionally require the art of human handling. I generally try to be best fiend in initial stages, but sometimes it doesn't work out. It's been quite a question for me that how I need to react when things become toxic. I find that reconciliation is generally cosmetic treatment and can never be true solution. It looks like the wisdom that the chance of adults being changed is very slim in most cases. Then I come to think myself - what we do when we find weed in a garden? We never try to reconcile with the weed as its nature as weed cannot be changed - rather we eradicate it. Maybe this is the solution? It may need the courage to be disliked.